"I can't leave my hubby in hell while I enjoy myself in Heaven! I would rather be with him and suffer together!"
1) Are you sure he is in hell?At any point of his life on earth, even at the last moment,
he could have met a Christian who told him about the good news.
He could have given his life to God,
but have not the time & opportunity to tell you!
So, you can't be sure that he is in hell, can you?
2) Even if he is in hell:
Are you sure he wants you to suffer with him there?
If he loves you very much, and having experienced the suffering,
He would definitely want to stop you from meeting him there!
He would be sorry to see you joining him in eternal torment!
So, you better make a decision that he would be thankful.